The most effective approach to transform our lives is to control our thoughts and minds. We’ve been taught what to think and why to think, but we’ve never been taught how to think. The consequences of allowing our minds to go on autopilot can be terrible. In this article, I show you how to think in a variety of ways, including how to change your thinking. These “thought labor” frameworks require very little effort but yield enormous results. “You become what you think.”

It refers to the abilities needed to live a happy existence. Because various people have different ideas on what constitutes a good life, the skills required may change. Often, living a good life is equated with adhering to a certain way of life, which entails following a set of behavioral guidelines. This is true in faiths where ritual and regimen are valued more than abstract principles, such as some forms of Islam, which place a strong emphasis on daily prayer, dress code, and abstinence from alcohol and pork. This emphasis on regulations can also be found in cultures that place a greater emphasis on ‘norms’ rather than ‘values,’ such as modern-day Japan, where life is ruled by a complicated etiquette.

This necessitates first and foremost a comprehension of the regulations. This isn’t always easy because rules can be complicated. These behavioral norms, such as the table manners of European aristocracy, are frequently used to maintain social distinction and are therefore made difficult. Another issue is that the rules are frequently implicit, and one must master them without question. So, in this perspective, ‘understanding how to behave’ is an element of the art of living. This necessitates social sensitivity as well as a willingness to comply. Another issue is adhering to the rules. This is difficult when the norms are strict; for example, adhering to the principles of proper womanhood may necessitate constant submission and toil.

The new thought of living then becomes determining the most important rule or devising a creative solution to the issue. This necessitates mental talents that are generally underdevelopedin such situations.

For enhancing our thoughts, generating new ideas can give us a standard life where we have to follow some extraordinary activities to develop our thinking. We need to think out of the box
where we must know the differences between learning and unlearning.

We need to know how to behave with others, how to carry our professionalism while maintaining etiquette and personal behavior. Believe in yourself and be confident in your work. Maintain your work through a mapping such as mind mapping.

If you choose the right path, no one can mess with you and your goal will be achieved at a time. Remember that the duty of your mind is to think. It’ll be thinking about something anyway, so make those thoughts useful! Stopping the bad thoughts will finally purify your mind’s reservoir. However, using an antidote to the poison can greatly speed up the purification process. This is when the ability to control your thoughts and mind comes into play. When you choose your ideas on purpose, you will be able to significantly reduce the consequences of the “poison.” It’s crucial to choose good thoughts (of course), but they only work if you think them repeatedly. Consistency in minor things, as they say, is no small thing!
It doesn’t matter if you initially believe the optimistic thoughts. It’s important that you say them, and that you say them on a regular basis. You don’t have to utter things aloud; you can just think about them.

It’s extremely beneficial to say something nice to yourself when you find yourself expressing something negative. If you take the “antidote” right away, the “poison’s” effectiveness is diminished. Taking the “antidote” as a prophylactic precaution (i.e., when you’re not thinking
anything bad) is also beneficial.

The reality is that if you’ve spent decades telling yourself what a jerk you are, you’ll have to spend some time replacing those negative beliefs with positive ones. Well, if you want to enhance your life in any case!

Consider this: suppose you’ve been walking around thinking, “I’m not good enough,” “I’ll never
catch up,” or “I’ll never be able to do anything perfectly.” With this “music” playing in the background all the time, how could you possibly feel like you’ve caught up, or that you’ve done something right?! You can’t do it.

Today’s youngsters are having so much of less confidence in themselves they at times do not feel in sync with themselves because of which it is resulting in large number of suicide rates. By the term self-esteem and self-confidence are two different things while self-confidence was more on your ability to confidently carry out a particular task and self-esteem is about your emotional quotient which means how in tune with yourself.

Are you hence self-esteem reflects an individual’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth whether you feel you are up to the mark for something or not whether you have faith in yourself or not is what self-esteem is? Now friends self-esteem was really a term coined which happened because a lot of times people don’t believe in themselves and the history of that can go to your past means as a child if you were abused or if as a child you were told constantly that you’re not good at something that particular comment by your parents or teachers remain in the mind which again influences you in your elderly years or when you go into adulthood when you still compare yourself with others because you were compared to as a child by a parent or teacher is what leads to a low surface.

If you compliment a person who is suffering from low self-esteem, they will not receive the compliment in a nice manner, they will also engage in a lot of self-neglect and reluctance to take on challenges, they will be in their comfort zone and they were not there out of their comfort zone and going to take challenges. So hence these are certain symptoms of people who suffer from low self-esteem. To increase and improve your self-confidence and self-esteem by being mindful try to be in sync with yourself. Be present to the present moment, be in it fully, completely hundred percent so be mindful. Second is you change the story if you want things to change for yourself. You need to change the pattern of thinking and you need to change your story only when then you will get a different result.

Third is don’t compare and despair. Everyone is unique, everyone is special and hence everyone has their own talents and abilities to do things. Do not compare yourself with others because that will only make you feel worse about yourself. Fourth, focus on your inner rock star, imagine yourself to be a rock star and imagine that you have the world at your feet hence.

Purposeful thinking has a huge impact on one’s life, and thinking good thoughts is the way to
live a happy and better life. This is particularly true if we have been having negative thoughts for a long time. If you want to modify your thoughts and beliefs, you need to dig into your head and see what they are. Examining whether your thoughts and beliefs are benefitting you, as well as replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, are all steps in the process of altering them. It becomes important that you believe in yourself, you believe in your inner self and those in the sense of increasing your thoughts to change your life in a better way.

About Write: Mala Mitra, Lecturer (Contractual)